Finding a Partner

It’s hard, yet typically impossible for an individual especially who believe in originality and simplicity to find a honest partner rather than what people say as modernity in the name of fluttering, cheating and other absurd actions.

Because there are few who wants their life to be original in terms of relationship and there are more, actually most of the population who believe in absurdity.

So what must be the point of view, legitimated by the honest individuals ?

Here’s a thing, there are some titles we named as ETHICS, VALUES, MORALS & ATTITUDES collectively making an individual’s BEHAVIOUR, propagated by his / her ‘ family, friends, school, college and followed by the Culture.

For an individual, these titles indefinitely depend on others, which means they are inculcated by people & institutions around him/her. So the time came when these titles became still and unchangeable in a certain domain of an individual’s BEHAVIOUR.

For example, let’s take a human for the action of having a relationship with the other gender in terms of love, being physical or whatever the society say for the people in love.

If that individual’s mindset is forged by the category of using others only for his / her appeasement, then there will be a lower, much, much lower chance that he/she will stand on the roof as a life being with only ONE.

Because we see, even in marriages, after some time, they take up ending the Relationship between the partners, followed by the reason that will not shock you, obviously, as nowadays it’s normal in the culture of many, i.e individual’s involvement in other affairs. On grounds of what? Because even after marriage, he/she is unable to change himself/herself as they have been doing for a long time, this manipulating activity.

Living under one roof doesn’t mean all couples are happy right now; it’s the most obvious reason for not breaking the sacred connection between two individuals.

& You know, obviously, this is not a patriarchal society anymore. So what males were doing from the long time, now they are hefty deserving candidates for the past actions as females started doing the same which people notice much faster instead of what men has done to women in the patriarchal one’s , even in today’s society.

So the final conclusion is nothing, as there are a whole bunch of aspects revolving around here, followed by individual’s mindset including his/her morals, ethics, values and attitudes which make a lump-sum behaviour of the individual.

That’s why author keep saying that its hard for finding a honest partner especially who are honest.

Here’s a special note – Society used to grade individual’s colour, face structure, slim or fat, rich or poor, or so many useless expectations but society never marks the importance of individual’s values and morals.

Yes, it is very true while finding a partner, its typically not easy to determine someone’s actual values & ethics in a short time, thats the reason people in the village used to mark more interest in the family of the individual who supposed to marry each other in the form of arrange marriage. Because it’s the family & the institution which inculcate the unchangeable values and morals, carried by the husband & wife to each other’s families and that’s why, marriages encounter to be more successful but thats doesn’t mean every marriage was successful, yet there must be some exceptions but mostly depends on what type of values, attitudes & behaviour , individual is carrying for that long journey, backed by his / her own family and institutions.

It’ is the People who used to look for uttermost beauty, outstanding pocket value, but they severely lack with the actual information of individual’s values while choosing parteners for life long relation and so far its true that most of us are involved in such type of searching.

See, you can help, as a husband, in getting your wife from being fat to be slim but it will take a huge time or kind of impossible work to change her negative values and behaviour that hampering your connection and vice-versa

Similarly, as a wife you can motivate your husband to be more competent in any domain but its hard kind of an impossible task to change his behaviour / values of being part of an external marital affair, which he kept doing for a long time and vice-versa

What can you do?

Now it depends on your destiny and values too. So yes, as an individual, you must keep yourself significant with utmost HONESTY followed by good values, including respecting others and whatever it takes to be a Good Human Being.

Rest, it’s not in your hand, but there is a universal saying that,

“If you keep doing good for others,

Your surroundings evolved with good people only “

BE HONEST with the man/woman you’re relying on to have a relationship.

Yes, there are exceptions in every field but do not demotivate yourself .

Have faith in the eternal light, which is above us all and I believe Good will follow you always, only if you keep doing Good